Blushes & Touches: The Most Underrated Gestures of Intimacy
Every one of us has a tickle spot when we're with someone, regardless of our relationship with that being. It's our weak spot, the spot where we feel a rush of stimulation course through our body. Like a wave of goosebumps, but one that carries with it an erotic reaction. There are so many under appreciated acts of intimacy that, in a good sense, get underneath our skin. It amplifies our sense of desire and serves as a tease to what might follow.
First gesture: cheek kisses. This is one of my absolute favorites. What better part of the face to kiss first than the part that blushes. The part where our blood runs to before any other place. The cheek signals so many of our emotions: infatuation, lust, embarrassment, rage. All of these are shown without so much of having to speak a single word. It's an emotional thermometer that we seldom have control over, and that's what makes it one of the most intimate gestures of kissing. My personal favorite when planting a kiss is right beneath the cheek bone. Giving or receiving one, it tickles me every time..
Second gesture: hugs from behind. Our back is arguably where we are at our most vulnerable. From the very beginning, our back has always been the prime target for when predators would attack us. It's where we are blind, where we have no awareness of the world behind us. Animals and humans alike have always used our turned backs as the prime opportunity to pounce. So when we receive a huge from another from behind, from where we are most vulnerable, it triggers a sense of lightning shock immediately followed by a calm sense of intimacy. It makes the gesture all the more powerful. It assures us in that moment the embrace shared between ourselves and the person initiating the gesture. In their arms, we are safe. We are granted a security the early-aged hunters and gatherers were never afforded. Prime moments to initiate this connection include, but are not limited to: a partner cooking a meal, gazing out from the window, and lying face down in bed.
Third gesture (and I hope you've been writing these down): ear nibbles. Yes, ear nibbles. Everyone can use an ear nibble from time to time. My own preferred method is one where you bite your partner's ear between the top row of teeth and your bottom lip. The perfect combination of sharp and soft. This exposed piece of cartilage is one I find to be an often overlooked spot to initiate intimacy. It's an intimate trigger that perhaps due to its biting sensation, is of a more primal urge. After all, the expression "(s)he's so cute, I could just eat them up" didn't arise from nothing. Another advantage to this display of intimacy, is that your lips are in perfect position to whisper whatever you desire into the ear of your partner. Request for household chores needn't be excluded.
Final gesture: finger combing the hair. Is it just me, or is not only dogs that this take pleasure from this? Our scalps are aligned with more nerve endings than you might initially think of. Our heads are more than an attic where ideas and thoughts brew, but is a place when stimulated, can send waves of arousal through the rest of our bodies. Using fingers to comb another's hair is gentler, more subtle form intimacy. It's one that serves more than the purpose of massage. It can act as a way to relieve stress from a troubled or occupied mind, to the simple display of affection. Principal side benefit also serves an alternative to using a comb when one might be headed for the evening.
These are just some of my perceived underrated gestures of intimacy. So, did I miss any?
